I initially thought about calling this blog Tales of a Housewife, but JR astutely pointed out that I was not going to be a housewife for long. And hopefully he’s still right about that!
It’s just weird not having a job. When JR gets home from work, he’ll ask, how was your day? What did you do? And I look at him blankly while trying to think, how in the world did I spent the last 9 hours? More importantly, I need to come up with a better answer than “Oh, I found a new TV series on Netflix and I watched an entire season today.” (By the way, I highly recommend Scandal!)
Trailing spouse is an actual technical term in the Foreign Service. I’ve used it when introducing myself here. Hi, I’m Jenni, I’m a trailing spouse. It’s not exactly flattering, but it’s pretty accurate. We both knew what we were getting into when JR accepted this position. I hope I’m able to work at each post, but there are no guarantees. It’s unlikely that I will have a career, in the traditional sense, but that doesn’t really bother me. I’ve had an interesting mix of jobs over the years, so I’m pretty open when it comes to that. I keep telling JR I would make an excellent assistant or secretary. That being said, I was still a bit surprised when a couple I met this weekend told me they both worked as prosecutors before the wife accepted her position here in Kosovo. So her husband, a former federal prosecutor, is now a trailing spouse and working in the mail room. But he’s happy with it, because he wants to be working, and they’re living the lifestyle they wanted and enjoying life overseas. That’s what we’re looking for, too. So maybe I should see if the mail room is hiring.
In the past when I’ve been in search of a job, I’m used to that being its own job. You need to be researching positions, updating your resume, doing cover letters, scheduling informational interviews, and that awful word: networking. People who know me know that I like to do things quickly and I can be kind of intense about it. So that’s what I feel like I should be doing here. Instead, pretty much everyone we’ve met says that I just need to be patient, and that I will most likely get a job soon. We’ve heard that the higher ups at our post are advocates for spouses, and will do everything they can to help them find work. It’s just that things move a bit slower here, not only with the government in general, but definitely in Kosovo. The pace is slower – which isn’t a bad thing, it’s just new for me. It’s also transition time, so many people will be arriving and leaving post over the next few months.
So I’ve basically been advised to hold tight and be a housewife for a little bit longer. I’m planning on taking full advantage of it, so feel free to recommend some good books or tv shows! 🙂